In the expanded, enlightened view, love is about freedom, trust, and opening to the inner beloved… a me, you, and we - that becomes a very sacred and powerful thing. Relationship is the final healing ground… that place we have to test all that we have been working on in the personal growth process.
Relationship is the final healing ground… that place where and when we are so in love with ourselves that we discover our inner beloved – our other half inside. Once we feel this, we can join with another person, without losing ourselves… and create a sacred enlightened relationship.
Me in an evolved and enlightened relationship is that piece of me that has lost the ego, that can be vulnerable and create from a powerful place of love, trust and power… the power to do what I might not be able to do alone – without fear of joining and letting go.
So many times, I have done everything myself, and I notice how I want to lead and guide and direct and fix and even control. When I let go absolutely and become one with another soul in love, I actually have more freedom, more power, more uniqueness and a peace that is incredible. I am me. And I am you. And we are we.
These teachings are about true love, real love – a divine love. It is truly patient and kind, and open, and trusting and synergistic and exciting without anger and ego and fear and anything that stops us from being who we are or anything that blocks us from our joy. Enlightened love gives us the power to be and know and live in our greatness as me, and we.
Love is an evolutionary process –transforming, unfolding, expanding and advancing my being. I have chosen not to live my life in mediocrity - average, uninspired, indifferent, unexciting, unremarkable or run-of the-mill. And, I certainly do not want this in my relationships. I do not want to keep doing the same old thing, having the same old result, which is exactly what happens when I close my mind and choose to think the same thoughts I chose yesterday. The only reason I have the same experiences every day, are because I am thinking the same thoughts from the same mind that thought the thoughts yesterday, and the day before, and the day before… and on and on.
Albert Einstein said… ‘You can not solve a problem from the same mind that created it.” Brain research teaches us today, that this is absolutely true. As a matter of fact, I write again... we are all chemically addicted to the way we think. Whenever we repeat a thought, feeling or behavior – we create a complete neural network pattern, complete with its own receptor site that once imprinted, will beg/crave for more of that behavior.
The way we are in relationship becomes hardwired and we are neuro-chemically dependent on being with someone or having a situation be the SAME. We will always attract people who will act in certain ways to produce a chemical response in our bodies that we are familiar with. We live in a prison of our own past memories and habits. We become our state of mind and stay that way, therefore limiting the possibilities for a new life until and unless we do an intervention on our own minds and thoughts… the only way we have a chance for soul evolution. As I open and change my mind - my brand new mind can experience enlightenment.
What is that?
enlightenment |enˈlītnmənt| noun
the action of enlightening or the state of being enlightened:
• the action or state of attaining or having attained spiritual
knowledge or insight, in particular (in Buddhism) that
awareness which frees a person from the cycle of rebirth;
insight, understanding, awareness, wisdom, education,
learning, knowledge; illumination, awakening, instruction,
teaching; sophistication, advancement, development, openmindedness,
broad-mindedness; culture, refinement, cultivation, civilization.
Yes! I continue to learn that my old mind will create the same old thing. I need to say that again and again. The key then… is not to change someone else, but to change my own mind.
When I change my mind, and hopefully create a new mind – I will have new neural networks that crave new experiences, dismantling the literal craving in my body for the old pattern – the old way of being in relationship with my beloved, my children, my parents, my colleagues and the earth.
Oh how I crave to be in integrity with my world. The thing is, my mind is not always in integrity with my body… my actions do not always follow my intention because my mind/body/brain is chemically connected to a different pattern.
And so it is that I am committed to enlightenment and to practice what I learn. Practice, practice, practice, practice, practice…. And on and on… until I have a new mind. The only thing I really have to change is everything.
Much love,❤️
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