Healing and changing my brain is another aspect of moving toward the ability to live in higher consciousness. I am willing to understand and practice new ways of thinking as an act of love to myself so that I can truly love and experience intimacy without responsibility. How else could I love myself deeply? .... Practice excellent self-care for the body, mind and soul… take time for myself…treat my body with love and respect in all ways…open my mind and heart…learn new things…have excellent boundaries…live in balance instead of craving…
Yes that would be great! Because I AM always craving the same old way of doing things… the same old way of taking care of myself or thinking about everything, or communicating with you. I say I am not going to do something, and the next hour I do just what I said I would not do.
The brain gets accustomed to all of our habits… physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually releasing chemicals that correspond to each behavior, thought or feeling. Specific receptor sites in the brain are dedicated to receiving the chemical released. It does not matter if the behavior is good for me or not, the chemical still gets released, and when I attempt to change my behavior or thoughts or feelings, my body begins to crave that which it is accustomed to.
I have a receptor site completely waiting for my co-dependent behavior, complete with feelings of guilt, shame and fear. When I change my actions because I have promised myself that I would, my body is literally deprived of a chemical I am used to feeling. I go into survival and eventually (sooner rather than later), I begin to go back to the old way… because of a chemical reaction.
Our routines are hardwired. How I am in relationship is hardwired. How I respond to my loved one is hardwired. I automatically react a certain way or just can not stop doing something because my body is chemically deprived and my body feels like it will die without that same old way of being, doing, thinking and feeling. What am I to do?
There is a way. With education, intention, meditation, repetitive mental and physical practice, we can re-wire the brain and transform old habits. I am ready.
As I consciously commit to confidence, security and an excitement about what kind of love, intimacy and relationship I can create now, and as I love myself more and more deeply, I experience a deep feeling of satisfaction, contentment, peace and joy.
Here are the tools required for transforming/healing the brain to be able to experience higher consciousness and freedom from old habits, reactions and ways of being:
Create a Conscious Intention based on new information about the joy of experiencing intimacy and deep love for another without responsibility for another person’s happiness or success.
Write a new story. Really get clear about the kind of relationship you would like to experience. Allow yourself to believe that it can happen; imagine and truly feel what it will feel like to live a new story.
Intentionally surrender the old story and relationship patterns.Do the work you must do for healing and transforming your old story when needed.
Commit to a daily practice of imagining your new story, feeling what it will feel like… so to create new receptor sites in the brain for new behaviors, thoughts and feelings. This is not fake it till you make it - we are talking about really imagining and feeling new relationship experiences.
Be willing to change everything so you can really experience the joy of intimacy with another human being.
Become the Master of your emotions… consciously feeling, releasing, expressing and transforming insecurity, fear, anger and powerlessness to confidence, security and excitement about what love can really be.
Love yourself deeply so you will bring someone else toward you who will do the same thing.
I commit to learning new ways to process what is happening in my world, so that I can love myself more and more. When I love myself deeply, I take good care of myself. Here are the steps I will take:
Observe my thoughts and feelings as a conscious creator…
Feel my feelings...
Express my feelings...
Ask myself – what part of me am I rejecting or not loving… what part of me is holding shame or negative emotion about myself…how am I judging myself?
Become the Master of my emotions by finding a new thought that helps me feel better about the situation if my feeling and thoughts are of a painful or negative vibration…
Love myself and forgive myself (and others) for anything I wish I had not created, moving toward wholeness and joy as soon as I possibly can…
Be patient with myself each time, knowing this is a process…
Let go of judgment and remember that I am the creator…
Consciously practice loving myself…
And so it is that I continue to realize that it is ALL ABOUT ME. The world is
matching ME and I am matching my experiences.
Much Love, ❤️
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