All the previous story blogs in this series - Notes To My Loved Ones, have been about the 3rd dimensional /psychological aspects of loving relationship. In other words, there are logical reasons why we are having the relationship issues that we have - based on our family of origin models, the program we were taught; our ability to speak our emotional truth and be vulnerable; our wound re-enactment and the understanding that our relationship core issues are always mirrored back in the emotional pain that occurs between two people. With this knowledge alone - in addition to some coaching or therapeutic assistance, one can look inside and understand why things have happened the way they have and get an idea about how to heal and transform, so to experience good, healthy relationships.
But wait, there is more! It is time to open up another dimension of concepts, my favorite - Consciousness and the Universal Secrets of the Universe - all about letting love in.
Here are a few big ideas:
1. I am ready to give attention to what I DO WANT in my relationship, rather than focus on what I do not want, as I remember whatever I give my attention to grows. As I am understanding myself more, knowing that my core issues have created my experiences… and as I am ready and willing to learn to speak and communicate in loving kindness, I also am ready to apply the Laws of Manifestation and Attraction and I give myself permission to love deeply without fear.
This means that I am ready to give attention to what I do want to create in my relationships. How I am thinking and feeling has everything to do with what I am creating and experiencing. And, no matter why I am feeling like I am… or from which core issue my thoughts and feelings come from – I must make every effort I can to keep my focus on what I want in this relationship - and notice what thoughts and words I keep in my mind.
I will always get whatever I am repeatedly thinking FEELING and SPEAKING about, therefore I must become aware of just what it is that I keep in my mind. Awareness will give me the knowledge and power to shift my thoughts and choose to give energy to what I want with confidence that I will experience new communication and love if I think that way. I give energy and power to what I do not want if I am complaining about my partner, gathering evidence to prove my partner wrong, or ruminating over painful old memories. My words create my future.
So, when my relationship and communication challenges me – I must consciously become the Master of my feelings (after I express and release them)… do my best to BELIEVE AND FEEL good feelings about what is coming, reframe the whole thing - and claim them.
As this may be a challenge, I must have a plan for how to do this, so I do not get caught giving a lot of attention to what I do not want. When I am wishing or thinking that I want someone to change, I am actually reinforcing the experience, not allowing the new level of relationship to come into my life. Creating begins with intention - then I add my feelings, thoughts, words and actions.
2. The next key notion is that my love relationships will match the love I have for myself and my beliefs about myself. If someone is not loving me the way I think they should, then I too, am the one not loving me as I should or I have deep feelings inside myself that I am not worthy or not deserving of love. If someone is not treating me as a sacred being, then I also may be the one who is not treating myself as a sacred being. It is as simple as that. Like attracts like. This is the Universal Law.
For healing - I commit to do whatever it takes to heal my own wounds, understand that I am important, I must have a voice, speak my truth, share my feelings, tell you what I need, and honor myself. When I am always the caretaker or someone wanting to save or fix someone’s life or circumstances, I am not loving myself so much. Because if I am focused on all of that, I do not have time for taking care of my own needs.
You will always reflect my own feelings and treatment of myself. That is why it is important to do the healing work on my core wounds, and to understand what a healthy relationship looks like.
We must transform past programming and cellular imprints to increase our ability to choose. When we are holding old painful and negative core beliefs about ourselves and the world, our ability to choose diminishes. Today, I choose to do everything I can to love myself more deeply.
I choose to do everything I can to treat myself as a sacred being… to continue to be conscious of my own feelings about myself, so that I can heal and transform everything that makes me feel less than. I get it. As I learn how to love myself deeply, I allow real, true, honest and sacred love in my life.
3. How I process what is going on will give me the powerful ability to experience and let love in my life. How I process whatever is going on is more important than what is going on. How I think and feel about what is happening with me and for me, is more important than the content of what is happening.
These are the beliefs that help me move toward higher consciousness in the midst of relationship chaos and drama:
Whatever is going on is part of my life drama and creation at some level – there to take me deeper to my true divine self.
Every problem is something I have brought into my energy field to help my soul evolve.
I am here on the earth to evolve my soul.
Every person and relationship in my life is here to teach me something important and help move me toward wholeness.
I am confident, secure and excited that all good things, people, experiences and successes are coming toward me now.
I am the Master of my emotions, words and actions right now.
All is well. Everything is okay.
And so it is that I am willing to process and live my life from higher consciousness - do whatever it takes to get there.
Much love❤️
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