
It is my wish and desire that you will not spare me your truth, either. It is more important to me that you speak your truth and your real feelings, rather than trying to protect me from pain or hurt.
Even though, it may hurt or scare me, I am willing to hear your truth about me, just as I am ready to be emotionally honest with you. I am willing to take responsibility for my own feelings.
If I blame you for the way I feel, I am giving away my power. If I need you to be a certain way or do a certain thing to make me feel better, I am not taking the responsibility for my own journey.
So, please do not spare me your truth. Tell me how you feel and be honest with me about your life. I am healing and transforming myself every day, and even if I do feel hurt, I will be okay. Being hurt or hearing your truth may be the best thing that ever happened to me. Please allow me to be powerful and vulnerable at the same time.
Believe that I will not die or kill myself because you are not feeling or doing something that I wish you would. You are not in charge of my life or death.
I am learning the art and skill of speaking my truth and I want the opportunity to grow and be with an authentic person who also speaks their truth.
I am making a choice to take care of myself now - to really be true to my own passions and inner guidance. When I am true to myself, I can really love you more. The truth is, I really want to love you and connect deeply more and more. I just want our relationship to be healthy, and I do not want to be the one taking care of you nor do I want you to feel responsible for me.
In a healthy relationship, we both practice excellent self-care. We speak our truth, share our feelings, respond to each other in loving kindness, and know that we are safe – no matter what.
It is time for me to let go of the old habits of thinking I need to save, fix or protect you, or try to be whatever you want me to be…so that I can really focus on my own passions and dreams. I really want to be true to myself. I want the freedom to do or be whatever I want to, without fear that you will not like it, or fear that I must be somewhere else.
I am open to this new way of living in relationship with you.
Real love and true emotional intimacy exists when two people can be completely free to be real, whatever that means in the moment. Being real means that I have the freedom and safety to be who I am, to express who I am in the now according to me.
In order to discover the real me, I must take some time to explore everything I love. It is important for me to find my passion and power, to uncover all my parts, to bring to light what it is I came here to do on the planet.
I want to be real, authentic, genuine and true to myself. Sometimes I have to figure out what that really means. I desire to love what I love, say what I want to say, be who I want to be, do what I want to do without fear that you will not like it, or like me.
And, I want to be able to do the same thing for you. It is okay that we do not like the same things. I am committed to speaking my emotional truth. That means telling you how I really feel, who I really am, and what my ideas are. In this way, I am allowing myself to be vulnerable and genuine.
Also, as I do tell you my emotional truth, I hope and wish that you can validate who I am, without telling me I should be or think or do or feel differently. I will do the same for you, even if it takes practice.
All of these ways of communicating are new ways of being for most people. Understanding deeply, and practicing these new ways of being bring magical results - creating extraordinary and incredible relationship.
And so it is, I say YES to all of this.
Much love, ❤️

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